Last night (aka early this morning) I made an entry about dancing and how it tends to make a romantically-involved male feel insecure when his lady partakes in doing so without him. Keep that in mind, I'm about to chase a small rabbit. There are 2 things you need to know about me before I get to my point.
1. I have always been indecisive about life, particularly romance. I can never make up my mind whether or not I truly want to pursue a certain girl, until it's too late and some other guy snatches her up. Or maybe I am not indecisive, but she already has a man. Either way, you can understand how this can become a problem.
2. I think that I have finally realized the reason for #1, and it is lust. [begin hypothetical scenario] I think when I find myself attracted to a girl and I'm unsure about it, then it's probably because the really genuine heart-throbbing emotions are not present within me. So I want to be with her, but I'm just not sure that I'm sure about it. Then she starts dating someone else and I decide that I should have stepped up to the plate after all. The reason I didn't, as I only know through 50/50 hindsight, is that before, while she was single, I was so anxious about making the decision of whether or not I wanted to court her, that I could not interact with her in a relaxed manner. I always had to impress her, but I couldn't impress her too much, and I'm just not very good at these kinds of card games. But once she is off-the-market, I was forced to interact with her as a casual friend. This is when I realize that she is the kind of girl I'd want to be with. Oh well, too late now. [end hypothetical scenario]
Expanding on #2, I've recently stumbled upon my old poetry on Poetry.com and one poem in particular, entitled Wish Upon A Moment, describes the kind of feeling that I've gotten around a couple of girls in the past year. Neither of these girls have been single, so I did not / am not courting either of them. But ever since I met each of these 2 specific girls, I have noticed a distinctly different butterfly effect in my stomach whenever I'm around one of them. No indecisive thoughts about it.
So now I'm getting to my point. And my point is simply that I am... a terrible person. Because I delight in evil. Recently one of these girls admitted that her boyfriend was a little jealous of one evening that she and I had spent together a couple of weeks ago. My reaction? I didn't respond to her but I got very hopeful.
So yeah, I'm that guy. That steals your woman. After having accosted Jesus on the issue, I don't feel like it is wrong to try and win the heart of a young lady unless she has a ring on her finger (incoming blog response to that stupid song "Single Ladies," so stay tuned) as long as my intentions with her are decisively pure. Which they are.
So I'm curious to know what any ladies (or gentlemen) have to say on these circumstances. Are you pro- or anti-boyfriend/girlfriend-stealing? Share any experiences or opinions.
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As a woman who was recently in a very unhealthy relationship, I can only say that I would have been lucky to have a man treat me like a lady so that I could realize what I was missing. I did have a man treat me like a lady, and after ending my relationship because I was simply unhappy, I would look into that option, except that I have discovered that he is married. Am I attracted to him? Immensely. Do I want to find someone who treats me well and gives me butterflies? Absolutely. Would I pursue a relationship with this man? No. Basically, I figure that all you can do is treat her like a lady--do not pursue her in a romantic way until she realizes that what she wants in life is you. If she doesn't, God has something else for you. I don't say that flippantly, but rather out of a place of hope, as I just broke up with the man I was with for 2 years because I realized that I was settling. My prayers are with you that you will find who God has for you, even though that might require more patience than you would like.
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