Man Up and Dance

You know, I am realizing that a lot of boyfriends get extremely jealous when their girlfriend or significant other when she dances with other guys. Even if it's a group affair, and there is no indication of chemistry between the two, he still doesn't like it at all. But when given the opportunity to man up and take her out on the floor, he declines to do so. What's that all about? Well I'll tell you.

I have to admit that I have been guilty of this in the past as well, so all my negative criticisms should not offend any of you guys out there. I mean even if I'm just crushing on a girl and I see her dancing with another guy, a small piece of my heart wrenches. Even still nowadays. Further, if I don't know how to do the particular dance she's doing, or if she's a better dancer than me, or if her dancing partner is a better dancer than me, I get overcome with a feeling of insecurity. Like I just can't compete. I imagine that the same emotions rush through most guys that find themselves in this kind of situation.

So what do we do about it? Well most commonly, perhaps, the girl stops going out dancing. That's right, she actually gives up a part of her life that she enjoys, just to please some chump that can't handle seeing his girl being happy doing something without him. Well now let's be honest... that just isn't fair to her.

If the guy is not a chump, he should realize that in order to remedy the situation most effectively, he needs to step up, get motivated, and learn how to dance. Even if you don't take lessons, you can learn how to dance just by forcing yourself to do it. I can speak from experience: most of it comes from practice. Step out of your bubble of comfort and look awkward on the dance floor a couple of times. Then he can take her out and be the man dancing with her.

In many cases the guy has already won her heart, so even if he's not a great dancer she is not gonna care. She will enjoy the energy, closeness and sensuality evoked from dancing, and it will be another bond that strengthens the relationship (it can make for a cheap date when you're short on cash, too). The interaction will affect her more deeply than it would with some guy with whom she is not romantically connected.

So put on your dancing shoes, men, because if you sit back and pout, eventually you'll find that she's drifting away from you. Either because you made her give up the pleasure she got from dancing (can be on purpose or by accident), or because you're crying about her continuing to do it without you. That's when you lose her. Don't be a chump. Man up and dance.