- Hayley made an outstanding point when she said "...if you don't share with people that they are important to you, they will assume that they are not." Whoa! I was blind to this Catch-22 until I read this statement. The whole reason that seasonal friends become seasonal is probably because you never affirmed them as being special to you in the first place!
- Luke 6:31 is the Biblical foundation of what has been donned the "Golden Rule" of American society: "Do to others as you would have them do to you." [ read this in context ] Whoa again!
- So you see? What happens is that a person who gets stuck with 5-6 groups of seasonal friends often becomes a seasonal friend his/herself. When they get stuck in "the cycle" that I discussed in my previous entry, it's time to view the situation objectively, and ensure that that their own behavior is saying "hey, I really value our friendship" if that is the sentiment they wish to receive, as well.
I would say be careful not to lay it on to thick, though (foreshadowing an upcoming blog entry)
Don't limit yourself to being a party-planner: make sure that your friends (the ones you want to keep for life) know how much they mean to you. Encourage them and let them know that they are special to you, and it shouldn't be long before the sentiment is returned.
Gee, who knew that scripture could be so simple, yet so profound? Pretty neat stuff. Maybe you didn't realize that the Golden Rule is biblically-founded. Now you know.
This is all I'm going to say about seasonal friends for awhile.
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Thanks for changing my sentence so that it actually makes sense. :)
You know, I've never really thought about that myself. I have always had friends that I've lost contact with, but it was never on account of wanting to lose contact. Often we just got busy and forgot to call or grew tired when our calls weren't returned. It mskes complete sense, though, that something as small as saying that you really vaule their friendship could save a friendship. People always say that actions speak louder than words, but that doesn't mean words don't matter. Thanks for the insight. (btw, my name is Kaylee and I found this through a link on facebook, incase you're wondering)
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