Undeserved Inspiration

I just had an interesting revelation as I was lying in bed trying to go to sleep. I had to write it down (or type it out, rather) because I'm certain I wouldn't have remembered it by morning.

You know that paranoia that people face in the early stages of attraction to another person? It's the feeling that you're not good enough for them, like they're out of your league. You get a little afraid that they are going to overlook you, and that if you don't do better [at life], you will lose them. It's a "pedestal conviction," so to speak. I hypothesize that this is actually a very very good indication that one's feelings for that person are virtuous.

When two people see each other for awhile, it's rather common that one person will have feelings of inferior worth. Like your other half is better than you, that you don't deserve them. Good. I mean bad, but if you receive these feelings in a healthy manner, it is actually quite good.

It is a virtue. A sort of tangent on a very overlooked biblical command for relationships, which is to build each other up; to inspire one another. Your partner should make you want to be a better person. They should raise the bar for your personal life. They should inspire you to live better. If you don't feel motivated to be better for your partner's sake, then either they're no good for you, you're drowning in your own self-satisfaction.

For we Christians, the latter is just the kind of pompous arrogance that should warn us to reevaluate our own selfish ambitions. Humility is a very undervalued personality trait in today's society. I am guilty of not having enough of it, I can tell you that with certainty. But now I'm getting off topic, so it's time to say goodnight.